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Of all the "Social Networking" sites out there, three have really worked for me. LiveJournal, Twitter, and Facebook.

It seems like Facebook has been the place where more people have found me and tried to claim friendship with me, more than any other place. That is - real people, who really did meet me sometime in the past. I've got an account on Friendster, that one gets pure spam. The downside - Facebook is also the place where I have to look hard at the name and claim to friendship, and sometimes say "No, you aren't my friend".

It seems like everyone has a different level bar to for them to make a connection with someone else on a social network. LiveJournal is one place where my bar is real low, and has little to do with the real world. My criteria for following some body's journal are simple - am I interested in what you have to say? Well, then, I'll follow you. If I see you are following my journal, I'll ask myself - why is that person following me? If I can't come up with an answer to that, I'll likely ban you from my journal.

Facebook and LinkedIn are different, though. LinkedIn, in particular, the standard I use is along the lines of - do I know you, and do I know your work, and would I work with you again? If the answer to all that is yes, I'll make a connection with you there. Facebook, well, is a purely social site, and seems to be where some pretty random people have popped up.

The first test I use is to say - "Do I even remember who you are?" If I have a hard time with that, then you probably never were my friend. I've had a few people from my high school try to claim that we were friends, and I have to go digging through my old yearbooks to find out if they even really went to my school. My high school didn't have a lot of students - maybe 100 each year I was there. In theory, I could remember every other student who went there . . . but in practice, I find that I don't. So if you went to my school, and I can't even remember who you are - somehow I don't think that means we had any sort of strong connection when we were at school together.

My second test is - Did I like you? If the answer to that is no, well ... your friend request will be ignored.

My other thoughts on facebook ... there are too many applications that want you to join up and invite all your friends - and that seems to be their only purpose. Sorry, no thanks.

It is funny...

Date: 2008-12-12 04:30 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] channelswim.livejournal.com
For me Facebook is a social experiment for a sociologist. I stay in touch with folks especially since I moved out here and make friends with the world.

But I also found the one person that I actually wanted to connect through with from high school through Facebook living in Colorado.

It is also a central space for my web presence but mostly for friends and the swimming community. But I'm also smart enough not to do anything stupid on Facebook. More the reason is because I have teen swimming friends and my niece on it that I'm unwilling to cross many boundaries, less so from professional concern. I figure it is serving two masters appropriately to be 'the adult' and 'stay professional.' An example is a powerful motivator.

I use linkedin for my professional contacts and there is very little overlap in the two except in who I know and are the professional contact also friends? If they are on facebook, yes.

Twitter is just a way to comment on life on the moment and the oddities that I come across, update friends, etc...

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Date: 2008-12-12 11:01 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dame-cordelia.livejournal.com
My life doesn't really allow me to spend that much time on line. LJ and LinkedIn are my sum total for networking, and that's not likely to change.

I too have been asked to connect with people I've never heard of, and find it easy to ignore them.

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Date: 2008-12-15 04:48 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] choisyleroi.livejournal.com
Until I found you, I didn't consider any of my Net outlets to be real forms of social interaction. Both here and at Twitter I joined at the urging of people I communicate with regularly in person or via email. All of my online posts are just journaling, and haven't really cemented nor created any bonds. Oddly enough, it's been MySpace that's opened up new social interactions for me, because I use it essentially as a dating profile.

I don't Facebook for a couple of reasons: I'd thought of it as requiring real disclosure to be in any way useful; and from what I've seen it doesn't look in any way useful. Now I find that various family members have "anonymous" accounts, and I've been officially urged to join by every member of my family including my mother (that's a bad sign, right?) and here's you putting in a good word for the varmint. Sigh. It may be inevitable.

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Date: 2008-12-15 06:07 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] choisyleroi.livejournal.com
I think Google actually pulled up your Twitter, and that linked to LJ.

What I find the absolute coolest thing is how closely your current life matches the memory I have of your personality. We've kind of changed in parallel. It gives me better faith in my judgment, which I sorely need right now, so please hold off disabusing me of my impressions!
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