Dec. 12th, 2008

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Of all the "Social Networking" sites out there, three have really worked for me. LiveJournal, Twitter, and Facebook.

It seems like Facebook has been the place where more people have found me and tried to claim friendship with me, more than any other place. That is - real people, who really did meet me sometime in the past. I've got an account on Friendster, that one gets pure spam. The downside - Facebook is also the place where I have to look hard at the name and claim to friendship, and sometimes say "No, you aren't my friend".

It seems like everyone has a different level bar to for them to make a connection with someone else on a social network. LiveJournal is one place where my bar is real low, and has little to do with the real world. My criteria for following some body's journal are simple - am I interested in what you have to say? Well, then, I'll follow you. If I see you are following my journal, I'll ask myself - why is that person following me? If I can't come up with an answer to that, I'll likely ban you from my journal.

Facebook and LinkedIn are different, though. LinkedIn, in particular, the standard I use is along the lines of - do I know you, and do I know your work, and would I work with you again? If the answer to all that is yes, I'll make a connection with you there. Facebook, well, is a purely social site, and seems to be where some pretty random people have popped up.

The first test I use is to say - "Do I even remember who you are?" If I have a hard time with that, then you probably never were my friend. I've had a few people from my high school try to claim that we were friends, and I have to go digging through my old yearbooks to find out if they even really went to my school. My high school didn't have a lot of students - maybe 100 each year I was there. In theory, I could remember every other student who went there . . . but in practice, I find that I don't. So if you went to my school, and I can't even remember who you are - somehow I don't think that means we had any sort of strong connection when we were at school together.

My second test is - Did I like you? If the answer to that is no, well ... your friend request will be ignored.

My other thoughts on facebook ... there are too many applications that want you to join up and invite all your friends - and that seems to be their only purpose. Sorry, no thanks.
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